Just my own thoughts on relationships. Totally random, but still there.
Its amazing how the older you get, after a certain cut-off, everyone around you seems to be either getting married, or getting engaged, and the quicker ones are even getting pregnant. The profligation of marriage pics on my facebook has been alarming. I open my facebook every day and I see another bunch of marriage pics added for me to browse through, and feel a little bit more pressure from this indirect method of evolution, telling me, You gotta hurry up, you gotta get married, otherwise, no one’s going to be left.
Its making me wonder if all that my parents say is actually true. That once you are 31 or 32, as a female, it is virtually impossible to find a good guy, cos all the 30 year old men, are looking for 25 year olds, which as a current 25 year old, I would be hard-pressed not to think about it. It also irks me when they say, that Marriage is like applying for a job in the current economy. You gotta start early, you gotta hit it hard, and eventually, after a few years (or months) of hard-work and committment, you shall get there.
The funny thing is that until I was 25, I didn’t even feel anything. I could happily ignore all the drama around me about marriage. Is there something in the female genes that triggers something when she turns 25, or is it in the genes of everyone around her, that start releasing these marriage toxins?
Notwithstanding being in a really high-pressured Indian culture ( which we will talk about later), I still feel the pressure from the outside world. I am potential meat that can be sold on the marriage market, I am ready to go. I have ripened to the exact right amount, and any more could completely ruin me, and no one would want me anymore.
The indian culture which is essentially the biggest marriage market out there. There were 50,000 marriages in India on Valentine’s day, which really shows you how many people get married there. Being Indian, I knew that three things are important in my life and of major priority - higher education, good job and the right marriage.
Every person has a certain status and they have to marry within their status. Every person also has a certain caste, and it would be nice to marry within that caste. Every person has a certain religion and it would be great to marry within that religion. Every person has a certain color… You get the point. There are so many rules on who to marry, that it sometimes boggles my mind.
Just a side thought, in terms of breakups. Why do girls always instantly assume that its a slight against their beauty if a guy rejects them? But guys never do that. They always keep their confidence, they never think, oh, this must be reason, I am not handsome enough, my biceps aren’t big enough, my stomach is 6-pack enough, etc.
While women compare themselves to others on the basis of their beauty, men compare themselves with each other on the basis of several interesting things, like money, success, the beauty or desirability of their partner and the size of their appendage.
I think because men have so many things to compare themselves with each other on, it results in less competition, and less throat-cutting, back-biting between men ( unlike women). Usually you find guy-friends who are interested in different things, so that when it comes to success, every single one is successful in his own special way, one has so many girlfriends, one has so much money and the one more has an an amazing business, as an example.
But women who only have one basis point for comparison, have to stoop to spreading rumors about each other, doing dirty, mean, down-right evil things, to put other females down, to lift themselves up.
This is just a theory that I am spouting, that has been around for ages, I’m sure.
Next I would love to chat some more about the caste system and the 3 goals of an Indian person.
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